Comments on: HAPPY FATHERS DAY

By: barghumer

barghumer — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 23:40:45 +0000

It is really great to see the support on this page, but I want to make an important point.
In physics there is a law of “cause and effect”. The disaster now destroying families, children and parents (mostly fathers) is an effect. If someone doesn’t put their finger on the cause so that the REAL cause is dealt with then this support and encouragement will just go on forever! It is easy to blame lots of things ( I have my own favorites from my experience) but we need to know the REAL cause.

By: pdittimus

pdittimus — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 23:30:38 +0000

What in your opinion is the real cause of this?

By: barghumer

barghumer — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 22:38:00 +0000

As an engineer, when I repair equipment I start by tring to find a common cause. I.e if the fuse has blown, nothing at all works and the fault is easy to find. The same also when something partly works I still try to find what the failing functions have in common and it is not always easy. Infact, is it very easy to reach the wrong conclusion.

By: barghumer

barghumer — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 21:59:04 +0000

Apply the same logic to this problem, it is clear that many things are broken at the same time. The CSA was a heartless unresponsive machine; cafcass struggles, and some of them genuinly believes they do their best, but is a disater. Even the complaints dept, is a disaster.
The judges seem to be “limited” by something and are so inconsistent. Even when they see through the situation clearly then seem unable to act. The solicitors are more interested in their money. They know something’s broke!

By: barghumer

barghumer — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 21:11:49 +0000

Only recently has the public face of “DV” allowed for men. It was the exclusive domain of women. So, the feminist dimension often comes up in discussions and articles. I am quite sure that many of the so called victims are actually the perpetrators but it is not possible for the system recognise it.
When the children in a school are no longer able to make Father’s day cards, it shows that the problem is already deep rooted, and in the process of undermining the society we depend on.

By: barghumer

barghumer — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 20:45:26 +0000

Unfortunately, I am not able to probe beyond this to find the common cause. What suprises me is that those who can, are fairly quiet. At least Bob Geldof didn’t just walk around shaking his head, as usual he did something, but such foundational problems are not in the domain for pop stars to fix.

Let those who know and understand please stand up and tell us plainly.

By: 64silversurfer

64silversurfer — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 19:49:06 +0000

Guilt by association

Wonder how the MP’s feel now

Wonder even if they really understand

what they do not understand is that

DNA is for Life.

By: 64silversurfer

64silversurfer — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 19:11:38 +0000

should have marked that one up, was to eager with the mouse

By: mala265

mala265 — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 19:08:21 +0000

For a mother to be so consumed with anger and hate that she does not see the burden a child bears as a result. I cannot begin to imagine how these fathers must feel. The stress and anxiety, endless court visits, financial pressure, depression….how can one not suffer mental health problems as a result.

By: dan25london

dan25london — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 18:40:38 +0000

Keep up the good work. Fathers 4 Justice, Real Fathers 4 Justice, New Fathers 4 Justice