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kidsbehave — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 12:39:27 +0000

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HAPPY FATHERS DAY

kidsbehave — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 10:38:05 +0000

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Raising Happy Diabetic Kids

kidsbehave — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 04:34:48 +0000

This is the first in a series of articles I am about to embark upon concerning this subject. As my family gets older and matures with this disease I think back to the early days and wonder why aren’t we all on medication for depression? Why don’t we have standing twice a week appointments with a psychiatrist? How did we end up so normal?(whatever that is) As I look back this didn’t happen by accident, nor am I Super Dad, and I didn’t plan it out step by step. It was mostly just paying attention, luck, and decent communication between my girls and me, granted sometimes at the top of our lungs.

The first thing I suggest you do is very important. Remember, our children are who they had in mind when they coined the phrase “monkey see monkey do”. Trust Yourself! It’s okay to do it your way. There’re three components to raising happy kids, diabetic or not. They are Self-Confidence, Self-Reliance, an Self-Control. The more of these components your monkeys see in you, the more of these components you will see in your monkeys! I’m going to put out some ideas here but you’re the boss of your situation. Do it your way.

Upon reading the three components you might ask “but where is self esteem?” I’ll save that particular ramble for another day. Let me just assure you that if your child has self-confidence, self-reliance, and self-control then self-esteem comes naturally.

What is Self-Confidence? Self-Confidence is:

Trusting your ability to form and sustain relationships

Trusting your ability to complete various tasks well, knowing that others value your abilities

Trusting your ability to manage new siuations

Trusting your own judgements and common sense

As you can see trust is a key element of self-confidence. When our children don’t have that measure of consistency and predictability in their lives it becomes difficult for them to gain the necessary trust either in themselves or in others to become self-confident. So if our children see that the people who are most important to them (us as parents) trust them and will provide them with a consistant environment, they will begin to trust themselves, their judgements, and those of the people around them. This is the beginning of common sense.(Yahoo!)

How do our children acquire Self-Confidence? Self-Confidence comes from:

Being accepted for who you are

Having someone show confidence in you

Knowing there is something you are good at

Having firm expectations of other people’s behavior

Not being afraid of failure

Developing competence with the saftey of a parent close by

Seeing others you admire and copy, being confident and happy

It seems so easy when you write it down. When you think about it three main components have to be in place: Trust and Predictability, competence, and sociability.

Trust and Predictability – We all know that routines are important for developing feelings of trust and security. Think about the routines and relationships between you and your family and friends. How much do they keep to a pattern? Will your child begin each day with a reasonably clear idea of what will happen and when?

Competence – Being good at things. We all have different talents and abilities. We need to help our children identify the things they are good at and encourage them. These skills fall into a couple of different catagories.

Practical: Seeing how to make or mend things, and build things

Physical: Good at sports, kicking or catching a ball, swimming, running

Mental: Good ideas about things, good at solving practical problems, good at schoolwork

Social: Good at playing with others, kind and considerate, good at making new friends

Process: Being good at tying new things, sticking with difficult tasks and so on

Sociability – Trust and develope their social skills. Involve them moderately in your social life. If we have our children with us it shows not only are we happy to have them with us but also that we trust they will behave appropriately. Getting used to being in new situations, and learning to talk to different people will increase our children’s confidence considerably. Here’s one that took me a while to figure out. Give your child advance warning of your feelings, of short temper, tiredness, sadness, or whatever. “I’ve had a lousy day at work and I’m very crabby. It might be smart to keep your head down and your mouth shut.” Or “I’ve had an argument with so and so and I’m feeling hurt. If I’m short with you I’m sorry.” This not only teaches them techniques for managing their own feelings, but gives them a chance to learn sensitivity to the feelings and moods of others. These are essential social skills not only for now but for later on in life.

Our children will develope self-confidence only if we have first shown trust and confidence in them and have given them an environment where they can predict and trust. Diabetes and all of the unpredictability, feelings of powerlessness, and exclusion that sometimes go with it just make this process that much more difficult. I look at it like if it was easy any idiot could do it. Well, we’re not just any idiot. We’re special idiots. We have been entrusted with the care and upbringing of a diabetic child. So remember you are a special person entrusted with a very special task. Trust yourself. It’s okay to do it your way.

In the next issue I’ll take a look at Self-Reliance.

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Honest Parenting – Help Your Child to Become a Happy, Productive and Responsible Adult

kidsbehave — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 14:34:18 +0000

Parenting is one big thing we all face in our lives at some point. It is inevitable (except for those who decide not to have kids and not to adopt a child either) but it is very much a learning experience as well. Is your child or teen out of control / depressed / argumentative etc ? Well, the information you are about to read here in this article (and in much more detail on my main website) would definitely help you.

PARENTING – WHICH ROUTE DO I FOLLOW IN BRINGING UP MY CHILD WELL ?

This is just the beginning of preparation, and as we all know parenting (and preparation for the same) actually goes on lifelong. With postnatal preparations, you also have to prepare for the arrival of your baby.

BEING A NEW PARENT – THE PROCESS:

To know your own child – we are all different by nature, and we all have a unique character aspect that identifies us to be ourselves. Being a parent is a life long experience. You have to remember that this is not the type of job that you can quit, whenever you don’t feel like doing it anymore. You must admit, that we tend to forget how it is to relax and just get stuck with our boring lifestyle and jobs. By the time that conception happens, your gratifying job as a parent finally begins.

PARENTING AS A JOB THAT NEVER ENDS:

Being a parent is nothing but a priceless job. For parents, their children are the ones who bring delightful joy in their lives, and though sometimes it is unavoidable, they too can bring tragic sorrows. To raise a child to being a good adult definitely takes a commitment (life long that is). For sure, we all want them to have better and happier lives than ours were. Parenting never stops, whether you realize it or not.

TEACH YOUR KIDS TO BE SELF-RELIANT:

This is for them to learn on how to earn what they want and be empowered to make their own true happiness. It is hard to see a child struggling in meeting their personal goal, but, wonderful to be there beside them as you see them slowly achieving it. As young as one-year-old, your child can start learning self-reliance. True independence is the only precious gift that you can actually give to your child.

9 WAYS TO GET MORE COMPLIANCE:

Start to establish house rules – Let us say your house rule is that bedtime should be at 8 pm. Some specific triggers can set a child off. Try to look for that trigger resulting in your child’s defiance and try to alter that pattern so that your child will be successful. In short, simply state the rule.

QUALITY FAMILY TIME:

Avoid criticisms, arguing or squabbling. All you have to do first is for you to rearrange your schedules in order for you and your family to sit down for meals together even if it is once a week. It actually depends on how chaotic your current family schedule has become. This would then help you determine how great a challenge it is for you to change your thinking for this quality time that can be set aside. You have to first establish some points or topics for your conversation. It’s better to make a gradual routine change as opposed to major drastic changes that’ll certainly bring about all kinds of objections.

COMMON CHILD-PARENT PROBLEMS:

Do not let fear come and hit you. The joyful experience that a child can bring to his/her parents is enough to pay for all the hardships that you will endure in rearing a good child. However, as the kids approach the age of ten or maybe eleven they may start to rebel against this as a lot of their school friends are already permitted to go off and play by themselves. How hard can being a parent really be? In a sense, it can be considered quite easy, however when it comes down to giving advice and helping your children this is where things get difficult. Of course, your initial reaction might be of rage about its actual cost, but come to think of it (reliving your school days), how would you feel if that was you? All of us went through that stage where we all wanted to be just like all the other famous kids.

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21 Days To A Happy Child Guide – Turn Misbehavior Into Great Behavior.

kidsbehave — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 17:04:48 +0000

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Developing Co Parenting Skills: Working Together To Raise Happy Kids

kidsbehave — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 02:46:31 +0000

Co-parenting isn’t easy. It’s actually quite a chore. When neither parent is willing to negotiate or communicate, the child has the job of transitioning from one parenting style to the other. As a parent educator and family therapist, I have seen many anxious and confused children affected by their parents’ inconsistent rules and styles. Sometimes children do this under the same roof and sometimes under two, but the bottom line is that it is the parents’ responsibility to create a balance.

Parenting skills vary much like personalities. The differences can be as subtle as the setting of bedtimes to as serious as choosing consequences for bad behavior. The bottom line is adults have a number of motivations for parenting. For instance, they might try to do better than their parents. Thus, we attempt to find new and effective strategies to raise good kids. These ambitions can be difficult enough. Now add the challenge of joining forces with another adult who was raised by different parents and who may be select different strategies.

So how do parents, married or divorced, stay clear and consistent, raise confident children, and feel influential as parents? They learn how to work together and become better co-parents! Here are several successful co-parenting steps:

Identify your personal style and motivations. Your first job in becoming a successful co-parent is to figure out your general style and motivations. If it were all up to you, how would you parent? How would you motivate your children? How would you use punishment and encouragement? What are the top 10 values you would like to teach your kids? Now ask yourself WHY? Why would your style be that way? What is your motivation? How did your parents parent you? Are you attempting to repeat their upbringing or compensate for it? Share your parenting style and motivation with your co-parent. I understand that you might feel vulnerable sharing your style and motivation. Your style may be different than your spouse’s style. In order for you and your partner to co-parent successfully, you both need to appreciate and support the ideas you bring to the table. When you listen to where the other parent is coming from, it will allow you to join forces. Before deciding on a parenting style and direction, consult parenting books and classes. Now that you have looked at each other’s parenting style, take a look together at good parenting books and the current research. Report back to each other and consider how your styles measure up. Decide on a parenting style. You now have several examples of parenting strategies and philosophies. Its time to blend what you believe with what your co-parent believes and what the experts say. This is the ultimate in negotiation but remember that if you do not negotiate at the adult level, it leaves your child to figure it out. Once you’ve decided, then write down the basics and embrace your new co-parenting style. Implement your new co-parenting style. Now you parent! Both parents are on the same page. Children are clear on what is expected of them and what the consequences are if they do not follow the family expectations. Thus, it lessens the occasions of arguing between the parents and the opportunities for manipulation by the children. Hold weekly co-parenting meetings with your spouse. Since you are the CEOs of your family and are business partners in a very real way, you must stay in constant communication. The success or failure of your family rests in your capable hands. Thus, co-parenting meetings are a must! These meetings should include finances, home maintenance, parenting, and relationship issues. Meetings should be held weekly with schedule book, meeting journal and budget book in hand. Continue to review your parenting style. You may find that one child thrives under your new system while another loses balance. Good co-parents always re-evaluate and restructure when necessary.

We are busy parents today. It is difficult to take the time to evaluate our parenting styles but the payoff is big for you as a parenting unit as well as for your child. Co-parenting takes the pressure off our children and the conflict out of our lives.

The author, Laura Doerflinger, MS, LMHC, is the Executive Director of the Parent Education Group and also the author of the parenting audio books that are available for download at FamilyAuthority.com. Copyright 2009 FamilyAuthority.com – Reprints Accepted – Two links must be active in the bio.